I know...it's been a LONG time since I posted here. But, as we come to the Thanksgiving season, I hope you will indulge me writing a little longer article. I began thinking about thankfulness as a way of life instead of just once a year, and it led me on a search of someone who seeks to do just that. His name is Chad.
I watched a YouTube video where one man (Ryan) donated part of his liver to his brother (Chad) to keep his brother alive…and then Ryan ended up dying from complications, though he had been totally healthy before the surgery. It was moving story in which Chad, the recipient of this gift of life, chokes up at the thought of his brother giving up his life for him. It goes on to show the gratitude of Chad’s children as they were talking with their cousins, (Ryan’s kids) and how difficult a situation it now was for them, since they ended up losing their dad.
It is difficult to watch a story that without being moved. There is something compelling about a brother who loves so much that he is willing to risk his life for a brother that is dying. There is something noble, something right, about a man who, when he finds out that he is a match, doesn’t hesitate to step up. You can’t watch a story like that without being moved. Yet, in looking at the comments on Youtube underneath this video, I am amazed at how many think he did the wrong thing.
“Now imagine the kind of guilt he has to live with. What a shame.”
“Die you son of... Pray to God that Ryan's children can forgive you. I can't imagine the embarrassment you must feel. I mean imagine knowing that your dad died because of your uncle and thanks to that baby that is 38 years old and still receives kisses from his dad, you will grow up without a father! IMAGINE!”
“If I were Ryan’s son I’d kill Chad. It would be a slow death --trust me.”
“And people believe in GOD hahaha eh......if_ this ain’t proof that there’s no GOD I don’t know what is........”
“The guy was being selfless and God just gave him the middle-finger. Meanwhile, we have child rapists and murders in prison getting three hot meals and a bed, living long lives.”
First of all, I find it amazing that there are so many people who can watch a 5 minute news story and then think to pass judgment on every person in it, believing that their opinion is the only one that matters…but beyond that, I think it says something about the human condition that has turned so selfish that the perspective is one of rage and revenge or another excuse to shake your fist at God and proclaim Him to be non-existent or Someone who doesn’t care at all. Which is the first reason we have a hard time living a life of thankfulness.
We have grown used to putting our perspective above all others…including the truth. When bad things happen, we rarely challenge our own thoughts as to their rightness or wrongness. We simply assume that if we thought them, they must be right. We have the arrogance to believe that we are the final authority what we see and we have little room for a change in perspective. We hold to our own opinions so tightly that we refuse to see any possibility that we just might be wrong.
A life of ingratitude is the result. Nothing that happens around us can then be good enough to suit us. Nothing is worthy of our lofty heights, and it is easy to dismiss it all with a sweep of the hand as being beneath us. Then, when trouble comes, it is also very easy to fall into a victim’s role rather than a student’s role.
We complain and cry that life isn’t fair and that we don’t deserve all of this pain and often conclude that if there is a God, He must hate us to put us through all of this misery. In short, our perspective has become our god. And our perspective is what causes us to either make thankfulness a way of life or miss out on it.
Either we see things from a perspective of being grateful, or from a perspective that leaves us wanting more and feeling like we not only deserve it, but that we are getting ripped off it we don’t get it.
Many of us are growing past the material side of things. That is, we’ve seen that more material possessions won’t make us any happier, but we still want more. We never seem to be satisfied. A new computer. A new car. A new sofa. A new job. A new house. You may say, “Nope…I’m satisfied. Don’t want any of that.”
What about more power? More influence? More skill? More money for the job you are being asked to do? Nope…not me. I’m happy. Well…maybe a little more money. But really, I’m good.
More intimacy in my marriage. More time for doing what I want. More respect. More love. More appreciation from others. Are we getting closer to home?
We spend our lives thinking if only we had more of something then we’d be happy. And while we know that’s not necessarily true, the fact is, we are right. We do need more of something. The catch is having more… of the right stuff.
If we only had more of Jesus in our lives, we would be. If we had more trust in Divine power and less trust in ourselves, we would be more settled. If we had more belief that God really did love us and has our best interest in mind and less doubt, we could learn to relax in His care. Again, it’s a matter of perspective. And where do we get that perspective? Let’s go back to the Word.
A few weeks ago, we looked at the first part of this verse—and I’d like to review it—but today, I want us to focus more on the last part.
Phil 4:6-7 NIV 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Phil. 4:6-7 NLT Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
I like the way that reads, don’t you? It makes it readily understandable. Look at verse 6 again. Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Don’t worry, instead pray. Now let’s look a little more closely at the last part of verse 6. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.
It is not wrong to have needs. God knows what you need—but He wants to hear from you. He wants you to articulate what you need. Not just what you want, but what your needs are. See—we so often tell God what we want that we’ve often confused the two. And there is nothing wrong with telling God what you want—but remember that He has only promised to supply what you need, though often He will go far beyond that to supply some of the wants as well.
Tell God what you need. Do you really know what you need? Is it truly more money? Or is it a more trusting heart in God and a willingness to watch His provision?
Is it for your loved one to be healed? Or is it for you to learn to yield yourself to the will of God? Which do you want and which do you really need?
Is it for your kids to be kept safe physically or spiritually? Sure, we want our kids to be kept safe physically—but we need our kids to be kept safe spiritually.
The very act of determining our wants from our real needs can help change our perspective. Tell God what you NEED. Not worrying—praying. Tell Him what you need, and then look at the last statement of the verse: and thank Him for all He has done. Go back and recount what God has already done for you. Not just a blanket, generic, “Thank you for all your many blessings”, but where you begin to realize that He has provided for so many of your needs and wants, starting with your greatest need—salvation, and working from there. The perspective of gratitude gives you purpose.
Chad will live everyday with the realization that Ryan sacrificed his life for him, and that will put new perspective into each and every day that Chad lives. When Chad gets up and looks at himself in the mirror, he knows that he must live this new day well because of his sense of gratitude to a brother that saved his life. I would think that this perspective would add a new meaning and purpose to life.
You and I can live our days with that same purpose because there was One who took our diseases upon Himself, and our worst disease, sin, was enough to do Him in—not because He had to die. He was perfectly healthy in every way. It was we who were sick and doomed to die. But when He began to do a character transplant, our sickness required so much of Him that it cost His very life. With that realization should come gratitude that changes the way we live our lives.
Phil. 4:6-7 NLT Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then notice the by-product. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
Those four statements can change your world. Don’t worry about anything; instead pray about everything. Tell God what you need. And thank Him for all He has done.
That’s how you develop thankfulness as a way of life. And the thing you are looking for becomes reality. Peace. You can have God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. And it is His peace that will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
Don’t worry. Pray. Tell God what you need. Thank him for what He has done. That will change your perspective. And that will bring you peace in your life.
May you have that thankfulness and peace in your life this Thanksgiving season! Not only this season, but every day!
