Showing posts with label discontent. Show all posts
Showing posts with label discontent. Show all posts

Thursday, January 28, 2021

Godliness with Contentment

Years ago, Russell Conwell told of an ancient Persian, Ali Hafed, who "owned a very large farm that had orchards, grain fields, and gardens... and was a wealthy contented man." One day a wise man from the East told the farmer all about diamonds and how wealthy he would be if he owned a diamond mine. Ali Hafed went to bed that night a poor man--poor because he was discontented. Craving a mine of diamonds, he sold his farm to search for the rare stones. He traveled the world over, finally becoming so poor, broken, and defeated that he committed suicide. One day the man who purchased Ali Hafed's farm led his camel into the garden to drink. As his camel put its nose into the brook, the man saw a flash of light from the sands of the stream. He pulled out a stone that reflected all the hues of the rainbow. The man had discovered the diamond mine of Golcanda, the most magnificent mine in all history. Had Ali Hafed remained at home and dug in his own garden, then instead of death in a strange land, he would have had acres of diamonds.   (G. Sweeting, in Moody Monthly, May, 1988,  p. 95.)

True story.  And we look at Ali Hafed and we say, “Dude, you should have stayed put!”  but almost everyone of us is infected with the same thing.  A lack of contentment with what we have.

If I were to ask you to name three things you wish you had, what would you tell me?  


Now…if I were to ask you for three things you are thankful for, what would you tell me?


Which was easier to come up with?  Why?  Did you know we spend far more time thinking about the things we wish we had than we do being thankful for the things we do have.


Benjamin Franklin once wrote "Being content makes poor men rich; discontent makes rich men poor." 


It isn’t about how much you have.  It’s about how you view your circumstances.  The apostle Paul tells us the same thing in his first letter to Timothy and he’s talking to him about people who call themselves Christian teachers who do so for financial gain. 1Timothy ch. 6.  These are men who stirred up debates and controversies, criticizing what they saw, arousing suspicions against ones that called them out, going so far as to talk maliciously about them and trash their characters.  Why?  To seek to show themselves more godly and perhaps even more conservative in order to pull down the big dollars.  Of course that doesn’t happen in our day.  Let’s look at what Paul says. 


1Tim 6:3-11   If anyone teaches false doctrines and does not agree to the sound instruction of our Lord Jesus Christ and to godly teaching,  4 he is conceited and understands nothing. He has an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that result in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions 5 and constant friction between men of corrupt mind, who have been robbed of the truth and who think that godliness is a means to financial gain.  6   But godliness with contentment is great gain.  7 For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it.  8 But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.  9 People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction.  10 For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.  11   But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness.


Did you notice verse 6?  He’s been talking about all of these things and how men who have been robbed of the truth think that godliness is a means to financial gain.  And then he says: 6   But godliness with contentment is great gain.


Did he say more stuff was the way to great gain?  Owning more land?  Better cars?  Bigger houses?  No… godliness with contentment.  Let’s take that apart for a minute.


In the original language, the word for godliness is actually two words meaning literally to worship, to be god-fearing and devout, well,well done.  In other words Paul is telling us that the first component to true gain is to worship, be god-fearing and devout, beyond the best of our abilities—that is, we can’t even do it on our own.  It has to be done in us by God.  So we are seeking God continually and seeking to worship Him and follow His ways.   And the second word, contentment, is translated, sufficiency or to be sufficient.  


So Paul says great gain is not found in wordly wealth, but in seeking to worship God and follow His ways while we find our sufficiency in Him.  


Put another way, when we finally understand and believe that God can and will take care of what we need, we will be content and that will show in our worship.  It won’t be about money and things money can buy.  It will be about knowing that God knows you, sees you and hears you and will take care of your needs.  That’s sufficiency.  That’s enough.  That’s contentment.


Tell me: Are you content?

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

A Perspective on Happy


It would seem that in our society people are on a rampant search for happiness.  And we seek a thousand different ways to make ourselves happy.  But are we succeeding?  It doesn’t appear so.  No matter how we search or what we buy, happiness seems to be short-lived and continually elusive.  We search and search, we buy and buy, and try and try, but at the end of it all, we are just as miserable as when we started.  How do we gain the adventure-filled life.  How do we go beyond mere existence into joy?  How do we find passion and color in a world that is full of shades of gray?

In this day and age, it would seem that the end result that people want out of life is to just be happy.  And we throw those two words around like we can somehow manufacture them or buy them.  We take our hard-earned money and we spend it on things that are exciting, or things that we think will help us in that elusive search.  We buy cars, or boats, or planes or new houses, or any number of things, thinking…if I could just get my hands on that, then I would be happy.

It starts young and continues all the way through life. I’ll be happy when you buy me the toy that I want or the cereal that I want.  If not, I’ll pitch a fit right in the store until you cave in.  I’ll be happy when I’m old enough to do whatever it is you won’t let me do because you always tell me I’m too little.  I’ll be happy when I get a new bike and can get around on my own.  I’ll be happy when I get my driver’s license and you let me drive the family car.  I’ll be happy when I can get my own car.   I’ll be happy when I get a girlfriend or boyfriend. I’ll be happy when I graduate.  I’ll be happy when I  get into a good college.  I’ll be happy when I graduate from college.  I’ll be happy when I get a job.  I’ll be happy when I get married.  I’ll be happy when we buy a new car or move to the suburbs and buy a new house, and have 2.5 kids…then I’ll be happy.  I’ll be happy when I get a new job that pays me more money to pay all of these miserable bills, or a job that has a nicer boss, or better co-workers. I’ll be happy when I can take that dream vacation.   I’ll be happy when I can get a divorce.   I’ll be happy when I can get remarried. I’ll be happy when I can retire and travel.  I’ll be happy when the grandkids come over.  I’ll be happy when they leave.  I’ll be happy when I’m not such a burden on other people.  I’ll be happy when I die.

And we live life with such malcontent, that we continually wish it away.  We don’t want what we have now.  We want something better.  We have become a nation of self-seeking navel gazers more concerned about our own feelings than the fact that there are over 2 billion people starving to death in the world right now.  Or there are millions of AIDS orphans in Africa.  Or that people in Haiti can’t get beyond a poverty existence even though they sit 120 miles south of the richest country in the world.

Who cares about them?  I’m not happy! I don’t feel good about life or myself right now.  I don’t like my existence. I don’t care about others.  I just care about me. I want to be happy! And I will do whatever it takes to make myself happy…even if it is at the expense of other people. But the problem is, the sad truth is…I can never be happy, because it isn’t really my poor circumstances that makes me miserable, it’s my perspective on my circumstances. 

You can run from one thing to the next, but you still won’t be happy, because you carry your affliction deep inside you.  And until change can happen in you, you are destined to be miserable in life because you can never outrun yourself.  At the end of the day, if you continually make decisions based on something else you think will make you happy, you will find that you’ve actually created a bigger mess with more pain, more misery and more unhappiness than you had before.  And not only for you, but for anyone who happens to be around you.

That job, that lousy car, that no-good spouse, that miserable school—none of those things is really your problem.  Your problem is YOU!

Do you see a young woman or an old hag?
So what it is that makes you so miserable?  It’s your perspective. It's how you CHOOSE to look at things.  People have survived much worse than your current circumstances and yet can still live with a joy that makes no sense.  Concentration camp survivors.  POW’s.  Cancer patients.  People who have had one of their children raped and murdered.  People who have withstood horrific things in life, including multiple losses, who can have a joy and happiness while you are miserable.  What’s the difference? Perspective.

They have a purpose to their lives.  They have a passion for what they do.  They have a desire, not for their own happiness, but to make someone else’s life better.  And their outward perspective ultimately brings an inner joy to them.  Suddenly they are lifted above their own problems and life becomes an adventure because of their changed perspective.

The problem for most of us is that we are trapped in our misery and, are you ready for this?  We like it.  Oh, we don’t like being trapped, but we refuse to change our perspective, and so we remain trapped, prisoners of our own perspective.

God, grant me a fresh perspective today and help me to see that happiness is not a destination, but rather a manner of traveling.