Will You Yield? NEVER!!!!

Storms are a natural part of life.  Small storms, like frantic searches for car keys when you are due at an important appointment.  Medium storms, like not having enough money to pay rent, or someone slamming into your parked car, putting your patience to the test as you walk through mountains of insurance issues and getting your car fixed or totaled and finding a replacement.  Finding a broken pipe, or a rotted floor or some other headache that you hadn't planned on dealing with. Then there are those HUGE storms.  Storms that threaten to do us in. That phone call that lets you know a loved one has been in a bad car accident, or has passed.  That doctor's report that tells you that you have cancer or COVID or some other equally bad piece of news.   How do you hold on then?  How do you not only hold on, but how do you actually grow stronger?  I believe it is in learning to yield your circumstances to God..

But that is much easier said than done, since yielding requires giving away even the last bit of the control we have.  But yielding to your circumstances to God can actually help you grow stronger as you meet the challenges of life. 

Yielding.  It means to “give way, to acquiesce.”  A more personal definition would be: to surrender or relinquish to the physical control of another : hand over possession of : to surrender or submit (oneself) to another.  

But we don’t like to yield (except, perhaps, to our temptations!)  It is not in our nature.  Everything within us revolts at the sound of yielding.  Oh, we do it when we have to…like when we come to a busy street and there is a yield sign.  But we don’t do it readily.  As a matter of fact, if the truth were to be known, we are approaching that yield sign to see if we have enough room to squeeze out in front of that car that is coming.  If we have just enough room, we will usually gun it to pull out in front and let them step on the brakes rather than yielding.  

In fact, as I have studied human nature, we don’t even value the idea of yielding, because we think it makes us look weak.  We, like Robin Hood, when presented with the question “Will you yield?” quickly respond...at least in our hearts, "NEVER!"  We would rather fight and go into the water before we would allow someone else to get the better of us.

So when someone says you can grow stronger through yielding, it almost sounds impossible.  But it is true.  Part of growing stronger as you go through the storms of life is realizing that God can use whatever circumstances you find yourself in if you will just rest in His care and yield to His will for you.  And if you’ve learned to trust Him in the good times, it is much easier not to panic in the storm.  

I had a mentor once, an older retired minister, named Sam. He still worked part time at the church I was at for a small stipend, but he loved people and he loved God and wanted to continue to spend his time bringing the two together. Sam was married to Dorothy.  And Sam and Dorothy had weathered many storms in life.  Family problems, many deaths of those close to them, financial pressures and at times, their own health challenges.  

One day Dorothy began to experience some abdominal pain.  She chalked it up to something she ate and figured it would pass.  But instead of going away, the pain got progressively worse, so she scheduled an appointment with her doctor.

A few tests, and the diagnosis did not take long.  She was already in stage 4 of pancreatic cancer.  I watched as Sam took care of her over the next few months, spending less time at the church and more by her side.  It wasn’t long before Dorothy died, her abdomen having swollen to the size of a basketball from the cancer inside her.

I will never forget that funeral and especially the graveside service.  Sam was there, and though he shed his tears over the one he had spent so much of life with, he wasn’t angry, he wasn’t questioning God and he wasn’t particularly trying to keep a stiff upper lip to put on a good show.

I walked up as he watched them shovel the dirt onto her casket and I put my arm around his shoulder.  He looked over at me and said, “I praise the Lord that He gave me such a good woman to go through life with.  She was my sweetheart.  The Lord gives and the Lord takes away. I trust Him to do what’s best. Blessed be the name of the Lord.”

That spoke volumes to me of a trust in God that can develop in a person who chooses to yield to the will of God for their life.

What about you?  Have you learned to yield your impossible circumstances to God?  Your suffering can make you bitter or better?  Closer to God or farther away.  It depends on what you choose to do.  Yield or retain control…But I think if we can learn to yield, we will find that our lives will be more in control and make more sense and we can have a peace about us that does not flee in the presence of bad circumstances.  And no matter what, we can say, “Blessed be the name of the Lord.”  

The question I (and you as well) have to answer as I meet each of life’s challenges: Will  you yield this circumstance to God?

What Should I Worry About Now?

Most of us spend our lives worrying, don’t we? We worry about how people will accept us. We worry about our clothes—are they nice enough or with it enough?. We worry about acne. We worry about our bodies—are we too fat or too skinny or too tall or too short or too ugly or somehow not acceptable. We worry about our social status. Will someone find us attractive or will they shun us? We worry about what the guy or girl on the other side of the classroom is thinking about us. We worry about school work—are we smart enough to handle it or will we come out failing? We worry about projects and papers and quizzes and tests. We worry about whether we can stay in school and pay the bill. We worry about our jobs—at least some of us do. Others haven’t gotten there yet as they joy ride around on the golf cart of life.

As we get older, we worry about our careers, and our income—will we make enough to pay the bills and survive in the lifestyle we’ve grown accustomed to? We worry about who we will marry, or if we will marry. We worry about whether we will be able to have kids, and once we have them, that gives us something totally new to worry about. How will we feed them and clothe them? How will we educate them? How can we get them through childhood in one piece when they continue to fall down and break bones or stick screwdrivers into electrical outlets, or jump off of swings when they are at their highest point? And how can we pay for the rising cost of Dr. bills when they do those things?

We worry that they won’t do good enough in school or that they get into too many fights or that they won’t be accepted or that they might fail and not only make themselves look bad, but make us as parents look bad too.

We worry about the perpetual cough that we can’t seem to stop or the fever of one of the kids or about our aging parents. We worry about the doctor’s report that says we have a tumor and we worry about cancer or strokes or high cholesterol and heart attacks. We worry about tornadoes and earthquakes and hurricanes and fires. We worry about our kids driving the highways at much too high a speed. We worry about the other people on the roads with our kids. Some of them we worry about because they might be drunk and could possibly hit one of our loved ones…and some we worry about because they happen to be on the road at the same time as our kid who just learned to drive—and they don’t yet know the lack of experience that our kid has. And so we worry, not only for our kid, but for the people our kid might hit.

We worry about divorce and our future. We worry about death and how to face it. We worry about hell and heaven. We worry about our family members that don’t know Jesus. We worry that we don’t know Jesus well enough. And we hate the question put to us—If you were to die right now, do you know where you would spend eternity? That worries us. We even worry when we find ourself NOT worrying, thinking that we must have forgotten something! In fact, have you noticed? We worry about just about everything.

And right in the middle of all of our worry, Jesus speaks. 

Matt. 6:25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? 

Matt. 6:28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 

Stop worrying! Take those things to Jesus...and rest...in Him.

Never Enough!

One of the most common things I hear as an opening line whenever kids come into to talk to me is, “Pastor Don, I’m so stressed I don’t know what to do.”

In our current society, we push kids, we hurry kids, we sign them up for all sorts of things…and think that it is never enough.  We expect them to be good at EVERYTHING…instead of taking their natural abilities into account.  We push and push for grades.  We enroll them in soccer and t-ball and gymnastics and dance and football and martial arts and we expect them to get all A’s in all subjects.  But what we are really doing is saying, in essence, “you will never be good enough unless you can produce the results.”  Or as one parent put it: “I’m paying the money so you better show me that I’m not wasting it.”  What’s the message there?  My money is very important to me.  I’m going to use some of it to help you develop…but don’t waste my money.  And the implied message is…if you don’t become good at it, you have failed me, and my money, and that is totally unacceptable.

Who says that everyone has to be good at everything?  What if, when they make a C in a class, you ask them what they are really good at and encourage them to pursue that?  What if you told them a C was good enough for an area they were not gifted in, while you encouraged them to pursue what they were gifted in?

What ever happened to individuality?  Instead, we want them to be good at everything…even when we are not!  We want them to make all A’s!  And we’ve gotten them to buy into the notion that unless they do, they will be a failure.

Help me finish these statements: You have to get good grades so that… (you can get into a good college)  You have to get into a good college so that…(you can get a good job)  You have to get a good job so that…(you can make lots of money)  You have to make lots of money so that…(you can be successful and happy).  Where did we get that?

From the world’s system of doing things.   So we put pressure on them to get good grades so ultimately they can be happy.  And what we really are doing is telling them that happiness is a station they can one day arrive at instead of a manner of traveling.  Which flies directly in the face of what God wants to develop in them.  God is more interested in their holiness than He is their happiness.  He wants to develop their character more than He does their bank accounts.  He wants them to find true joy in serving others.  But we short-circuit that in the lives of teens by elevating education and advanced degrees and people with money over serving God with passion.

Don’t misunderstand me.  There is nothing wrong with having an education and advanced degrees.  There is nothing wrong with being wealthy.  But if that is what we are telling kids will bring them happiness, then we have flat out sold them a lie.  And at what cost?  They have more stress in their lives than they can handle and we heap more and more on them telling them they have to do these things to what?  Climb the world’s social and economic ladders.  We tell them that what they are doing is never enough.

God designed that education and advanced degrees and even our wordly wealth all be used to honor Him.  Not some artificial socio-economic structure that we’ve bought into.  But there is something more inherently dangerous in this “never enough” message. 

This attitude carries over into their spiritual life as well.  We portray God as saying…you will never be good enough…but you better produce anyway.  Read your Bible.  Pray.  Witness.  Become a vegan.  Learn to preach.  Do good deeds for others.  Give Bible Studies.  Serve at the church. Get up at 4:30 every morning, exercise, never eat Twinkies (but Little Debbie’s are ok) and if you’re diligent, you just might make it.  But please understand…no matter what you do, it won’t be good enough.

And most will look at us and say, “Then why should I try?”  And we basically say, “Because that’s what God has called good little Christian boys and girls to do!  So do it!”

And we often make it harder than it should be.  

Why do we do that?   It’s perhaps because sometimes we get confused ourselves.  We sometimes don’t feel like we are good enough or are doing enough to make it into the kingdom. Let’s examine that for a few moments.

There used to be taught a theology, that unfortunately still lingers, that went something like this.  First of all, when you accept Christ, he forgives and cleanses you and imputes His righteousness to you.  That’s called Justification.  So far, they are on track.  No problem until we start looking at the “now what?” question.  After I accept Christ, now what?  

This line of theology goes that what happens next is that each day, Christ righteousness will come all the way down and meet you where you are and cover your inadequacies, but that He expects you to grow, so that each day, as you grow, Christ will need to cover less and less, until you have actually grown up to meet Him and you have perfectly reproduced the character of Christ.  This line of thought continues that at the end of time, when Christ stands up and makes His pronouncement about being holy, etc., you will need to stand without a mediator for a time, so you will need to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect, in order to make it to heaven.  If not, you are out of the pool and under the curse.

Sounds a little scary, but it also sounds plausible, so let’s examine it a little more closely.  If I tried to live a Christian life under that system, I would soon become very frustrated.  The frustration would come because I still come up against my sins and my sinful nature again and again, and it would seem that I may never reach the goal, no matter how hard I try.  As a matter of fact, when I really get honest, I realize that I will never  reach the goal!  No matter what I do, it will never be enough.  And the natural reaction would be to give up in defeat before I ever got started good.

But what does this theology do with Christ’s words in Matthew 11: 28?  "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.   29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.   30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

Where is the easy yoke and the light burden?  Living under this theology is heavy and defeating.  As a matter of fact, it’s a lie because it puts the emphasis on what I have to do instead of on Christ.  It actually puts me and my works in competition with Christ and His sacrifice for me. The fact is, I will always be in need of Christ and His grace.  Always! Anytime a theology becomes more dependent on me, instead of Jesus, I need to put it aside.

John 14:6   Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

John 6:37 All that the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never drive away.

See, I may never have enough, do enough, or be enough to make it on my own, but it’s not about me. It’s about Jesus.  Now THAT is Good News!!!

Only a Boy Named David

We’ve all sung the song.  We’ve all heard the story.  We’ve all been inspired by a little guy taking on the big guy and winning. Ok Pastor Don, we know the story.  Why look at it again?  Why waste the time?  Sure, we know the story, but have we gotten the point of the story?  Have we applied it to our lives as we struggle against the giants in our lives? Go back and re-read the story in 1Sam. 17.  Go ahead.  I'll wait.

What an amazing story!  David, sent out by his father to take supplies to his brothers, is simply going about his daily life when he meets the giant.  Goliath was huge.  The bible says that he was a cubit and a span tall.  A cubit is 18 inches and a span is 9 inches, so that would make Goliath 9’9” tall.    And check out his equipment.  Look at Verse 5 He had a bronze helmet on his head and wore a coat of scale armor of bronze weighing five thousand shekels; (about 126 lbs)  V.6 on his legs he wore bronze greaves, and a bronze javelin was slung on his back.   7 His spear shaft was like a weaver's rod, (between 30-50 lbs) and its iron point weighed six hundred shekels. (about 15 lbs)  Goliath is wearing or carrying over 200 lbs of armor and weaponry.  And he has a guy with him who’s only job is to carry his shield.

Not only was Goliath huge, but he had an attitude!  And I’ve met people today that still carry the same attitude. Goliath stood and shouted to the ranks of Israel, "Why do you come out and line up for battle? Am I not a Philistine, and are you not the servants of Saul? Choose a man and have him come down to me.   9 If he is able to fight and kill me, we will become your subjects; but if I overcome him and kill him, you will become our subjects and serve us."   10 Then the Philistine said, "This day I defy the ranks of Israel! Give me a man and let us fight each other."  

It’s the bully syndrome.  I’m bigger and might makes right.  Come and see if you can do anything about it.  It’s one of the first lessons we learn in the schoolyard.  If you’re a runt, watch out.  And the Israelites had the same reaction that I had whenever the schoolyard bullies came around.  I would try to run and hide.  At the very least, I grew afraid and uncomfortable.

David is going about his duties and greeting his brothers, when the giant enters his life.  He didn’t get up that morning and say, “Hey, think I’ll go kill a giant today.”  His only thought was to do what his father had asked him to do.  But when he gets there, here’s Goliath.  And Goliath has an attitude.  It’s a Yo Mama attitude.  Or closer,  a Yo Daddy attitude. Yo Daddy, yo God, is so weak he can’t even stand up against me.  Yo Daddy is a loser.  If ya’ll are so tough, somebody come on out and do the deed!  Come on, let’s see what you got! And the attitude didn’t sit well with David.

So here he is, just seeking to be faithful to his father’s calling, and now there’s a giant with an attitude.  Ever had one of those days?  When you’re just trying to be faithful and do what your Father asks you to do, and before you know it, you’re smack up against a giant with an attitude.

Pretty intimidating, isn’t it?  Before you know what’s happening, some big, giant, hairy problem is all over you with attitude.  And your first reaction is just like the armies of Israel.  Run, hide and tremble in fear.  Sit there behind your tent and wish that someone would do something to take care of this thing.  Just make it go away.

Why is it when we can’t figure out a solution ourselves, that we just sit and hope the problem goes away?  How is it that we can sit and pine over the problem for days and weeks, anxious and worried about it, but stuck, unable to do anything about it?  It looms large and we feel overwhelmed.  No blows have been exchanged—only words, or ideas.

It’s in times like that when faith gives way to fear, and fear has its way with us.  We let it run rampant in our souls, a giant that keeps us intimidated and paralyzed in our spiritual walk.  We cower in the corner listening to the taunts of  giant fear inside our souls as the icy fingers of dread wrap themselves around the core of our being and begin to choke the life and even the will to live right out of us.  Ahhh, Maybe that’s why we need this story.

We’re the little guy.  Problems, fears, anxieties, issues…those are the giants.  What would God have us do with the giants.  Go back in the story and look at David. 44  "Come here," he said, "and I'll give your flesh to the birds of the air and the beasts of the field!"   There’s the giant talking.   It’s enough to intimidate any of us.  Come here and I’ll rip you up!  Come here and I’ll finish you.  And while the rest of the army hides, David has a response. 

Check out v. 45 David said to the Philistine, "You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the LORD Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied.   46 This day the LORD will hand you over to me, and I'll strike you down and cut off your head. Today I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds of the air and the beasts of the earth, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel.   47 All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the LORD saves; for the battle is the LORD's, and he will give all of you into our hands."  

Do you see the response?  Turn to those fears, those anxieties, those issues and in the name of Jesus confront them.  Say, “this day the Lord will hand you over to me and I’ll strike you down.  For the battle is the Lord’s and he will give all of you into our hands.

Notice something.  David relied on the Lord, but he still had to go out to meet the giant.  Some people feel they can’t do anything unless they are rescued.  You still have to pick up the rocks.  You have to put in your time.

David had put in hours practicing with the sling.  The sling was considered a weapon of war.  In their conflict with Israel, the Benjamites, mustered on one occasion, according to Judges 20:16 “seven hundred chosen men who were left-handed, each of whom could sling a stone at a hair and not miss.”  It was an instrument of war…but they had to put their time in to be effective.  David had spent hours practicing, so that he knew how to use his weapon.  He trusted God, but he still picked up and used a stone.

God wants us to trust Him, but in order to have the faith that we need, we have to put in the time.  Our best weapon in spiritual warfare is the word of God.  The only way to win is to recognize that the battle belongs to the Lord, and launch the rock of His promises.  His promises can turn fear back to faith, anxiety to trust, and uncertainty to a calm assurance. 

2 Peter 1:3-83 His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.   4 Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.   5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge;   6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness;   7 and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love.   8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.

We can be victorious too, but we have to put in the time.  We have to practice.  And as the test come, we can learn to meet each one with faith.  And each test passed takes us up to a greater challenge. The lion, the bear and then the giant.

And with that experience under your belt you can begin to meet whatever challenges you face with a renewed faith and trust.  Giants are there to get our attention, but God never intended that they stop us.  He only wants us to refocus on Him and what He wants to do for us.  That’s truly a reality.

Whether it be in our personal lives, or our corporate life as a church, God wants us to face the giants, recognizing that the battle is not ours, but the Lord’s.  And that’s reality.

Reality check here my friend.  What are you turning back from in discouragement and defeat that you should be meeting in faith with the promises of God? Where are you talking discouragement and impossibility when you should be quoting, “For with God all things are possible.”?   What has you cowering in a corner today?

Stand up.  Go out in faith, and with God’s help, kill the giant.